Boundaries for the Soul

What pain is it trying to protect
I feel the need to retract
My eating disorder kept me alive it protected me from shame - it wants me to love extreme protector that wanted me to live-

The pain that u have emotionally get physical pain instead

Sorry if I was lonely and there is poor little girl with long blonde hair trailing and then he is receiving the gaze of affection from her father

And overwhelming

Provide the way to bring together what you know of God with the emotions you’re experiencing right now Dallas forward for the understanding that is the basis of care give me an undivided for it but I may. Day. The heart is deceitful above all things. I have written their word law on their mind and heart. Heart have a different heart just like members of the family each part. The narrative, story about it’s role to the family internal systems family model

Ifs parts of soul we are also created with different parts of our soul when they are rejected or traumatized they can take on extreme Dr. feeling and painful memory can weight them down what causes you to act from a place that is not in line with the spirit. 3 parts
Protector keep us from pain
When the protector takes over you’re no longer living in the spirit was part of yourself

Manager Drive to keep you emotionally safe work to make like predictable. people pleasing working long hourscritize excessive perfection fail to



Firefighter minimizes suffering Manager managers try to act preemptively, firefighters try to extinguish pain after it happens season poker purse tend to indulge in whatever feels good into tricking your hair so that you handle life well firefighters remind you when it’s time to rest and help you unwind it can lead you down the path of reckless self indulgence no unwanted feelings alcohol entertainment escaping drugs over sleeping

Exiles we have all experience some brokenness we cannot fix and some pain we can’t heal, in hiding
We are exiling the parts that were hurt most during those events if you have Learned helplessness victim mentality shame fear insecurities unseen overlooked lonely sadness
The parts of us that are pure weaker are the ones we cannot live without
The protector keeps you from the memories and avoid the pain

What is you The task manager is just driving one that works so hard what is your affirmed your task manager instead of shaming it. Thanked it for how hard it works this task manager was focused on all that she wasn’t doing in an attempt why did Macon TaskManager feel fear.

People pleasing
Drugs
Under eat it when my fear test crept in her task manager was OK just work harder fear of failure overworking is it our only option we have a spirit led self

I see how you’re conflicted you’re unable to balance your priorities or stop people pleasing I am with you Jesus I trust you to lead and care for me I will never leave you nor for sake you

Instead of shaming we give it to Jesus and trust that he can lead me not this task manager invite God in instead of listening to his voice, treating that fear with compassion you are enough I will give you what you need

Sings this by baptized imagination Mature understanding

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Need boundIes:
Do you want to escape, you’re feeling anger towards someone,
Exhausted from people pleasing, feeling critical of one perfect urgent to fix checking out
Ruminate painful memoriesvictim of cercumstance

We are leaving from her spirit let’s talk when we feel courage confidence peaceful gentle self control

Lead from spirit present in these emotions in parent them

Parts try to help

Anger protects you thank u for being there you are a value

Saddness I love that you make me tender hearted look at them instead of avoiding them

One focus on the overwhelming part of yourself, t step to be friends with her that you do not like, step three invite Jesus to draw near yep for unburden this weary part yes five integrated into your a true internal rivals
Do you part let healing of his heart of you let you receive his love experience joy

Maturer spiritual peace to the internal war

Give me an undivided heart that I may fear your name he who gets wisdom loves his own soul prob 17

Focus


Hurting part present itself. Focus and get curious about that part locating an overworked part of your soul It is just a part auto show me some total of who you are

Where do you feel it in your body
Neck image comes to mind shame crouching child
Thank hough
I am bad eating too many mint

This is not about you - Kristen’s wedding
You are too much get smaller

Disgust no self control
Shame deep in stomach

Constellations
Isolate the thought who is speaking? Pick up the mouse by the tail- drop into jar Turn it all the way down we want to parts to feel included but not too loud
Exiles lost part

So drawn to distant men that remind me of father- I must be worthy of love
Pain is one aspect of my soul focus on internal exile that is still abandon pray for the grief it’s bearing look at picture spirit Lead focus on exile

Befriending the person who you don’t like so you can invite them in and look at them not be strangers form Allie’s space where change can take place. How am I feeling toward this ? Compassion or self condemnation? This part has been protecting you
Thank that part

How to be friends protectors and then exiles again
Protector
Critic controller analyzer addictions web drug alcohol honor good intention- protect the exile


Matt 544 45

When you befriend u become more whol trust confidence and greater intimacy

Invite Jesus to draw near to self sabotage

Sancitmonium Leaders- moralistic
Legalists- All that matters is that we follow the rules.

Judges-I do a better job of following rules than others
Prideful doers- he loves me because I’m good at following rule
Premadonna I deserve this
Perfectionist- not a hair out of place

People pleasers- I’m nice and help those in need even if it kills me
Gets too close and take over risk exile self
Look to maintain standing with others And God
When in fact they keep from establishing relationship with Vid

Befriend sanctimonious leaders- I have come to save not condemn work to my highest good

Firefighters- extinguish pain
Prodigal
Slacker
Skeptics
Mavericks
Escape artist
Check out or life
Too far away- miss out on life and live in comfort zone

Suffering exile- I’m mad at God passive and fail to get up and walk
Or overwhelmed by pain

In his presents sufferings
Love your thing Timonium fire fighter

Jesus loves every part of you The sanctimonious managers
String firefighters and suffering exiles

When protectors become prayerful and exiles find strength My internal life will become more integrated and beautiful peaceful

Unburden the belief that God will not love me if I don’t care for mom
It’s not my job it’s Gods job

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There is no pit so deep but Christ is deeper still. This world will break our hearts.

Our joy and peace will dance on the grace of everyone everything that breaks our heart.
Yeah because we gain final control over everything that hurts us but because Jesus gets the final say and he loves us
believing is just defining everything that we would otherwise believe about our self and treating the promises of God‘s grace as real to us

Present involved alert and not a liar

Let’s pretend for a second that that is transcendence- knowing all the promises will come to pass

Being holy/ good leads to knowing him who is love joy peace patience

Advocate for someone else 6

Self awareness
Others awareness
Wmpathys

Self perception decision making
How I deal with stress
How we manage our own emotions and how we manage others relationship management eq i 2.0

Roman’s 12 hence the picture of that experience and that joy now may the God of Hope fill with joy and peace abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit

Our ennegram type is a mask we hold up to the world and ourself as a Way to get our needs met as a young person, to defend against the things that scare us or are threatening to us. Which beacon becomes a little too rigid and that is what we identify most with - eq makes default setting to life and that is our conditioning
Eq is more important to it

Self aware 13-15
We need self discovery Healing and wholeness or inextricably linked to emotional intelligence

What has always been true with you

What parts did you have to leave behind to become that perfsom

Who did you have to become to survive

Core fear
2: unwanted

Our souls way of calling feeling to attention or consciousness

When depression comes up
What is my soul telling me?
What is being told to me?

3 ways we take in reality 2: feelings

O wherever we are on those spectrums we are over using one or under using another

This is alerting us to our body
Body put on back burner
Brain experiences in body to Feed into the heart amd the mind. Construct a reality based on what is experiencing there. Trying to make predictions based on past experiences

Big feeling past traumatic experience doing work of reconnecting

Balance in life- bring head and gut into balance

◦ Balance in wings is wholeness
Self preservation dominant or self preservation repressEd

How do we know if we are not true self

The passion - domenant pride
That is opposite of the true self which is a virtue

1- serenity
2- humility
6-courage

We use all of our personality strategies to get back to virtue but really we would just have to takeoff the mask

What happened that told me that being true self wasn’t going to be okay. Adapting to expectations of other a
What matters is who I can be for other people and then they will value me. Reinsert myself as adult
Our type is response to a primal wound or trauma of some kind A defense to not experience that pain again.

Avoid failure.
Transcend these addictions. Bill tried everything Only God can do for you or you can’t do for yourself

The emotional vice leads to the mental fixations when we do the work we reveal the holy ideas. Closer glimpse of what it really is
Holy will in. Universe and it is up to God and I am not the one that has to solve everybody’s problems
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You can’t avoid the spiritual

I must take care of others to earn their locker approval

I have to be responsible for everyone around me

Fear of commitment
Self doubt
Physical burdens
Insomnia
Shame

Time to put a boundary around this so they can play in Morris active role in your life

What is a dream that was shattered?
Pain in the present family life is
Protectors
Help you cope
but the exiles harbor your dreams and feelings and unhealthy beliefs



Cheerful tranquility A burdened part can be like a soldier that doesn’t know the war has ended
I have to be perfect to earn his affection
Are young parts may pick up on thoughts that we know that are untrue
When your XL wants to focus on those lies that I am only worthy of love when I am helpful then do you need to remind it of all of the things you have learned about God and bring it home. Share the truth of who you are to your exile call sis lost part of yourself and your exhale kid releases burn him some feelings and beliefs hope this last part of you joined her self in the present